Something to share...

well just wanna share some of my thoughts to the people out there.Many people say these to me "there no such thing as long term relationship in the gay world" But somew how the truth is that many men doesn't make the effort to have one. You may promise to give your better half the moon and the stars during the period of courtmanship but later when he accepts and be with you somehow or some where all these kinds of excuses will naturally popped out :-"i am busy" (but the fact he is lying on the couch)"maybe next time ok....i am tired" (dressing up to go clubbing)"going to bed now" (getting car keys to go out to yum cha"and etc...Many have this mentality that being in a relationship and taking it very lightly which will leads to all those unnessary fights, shoutings, arguments and misunderstanding...worse..breakups.Don't you people ever remember why you want him to be your bf in the first place? If he is going to make you so uneasy so why ask at the first place. Or maybe that you have already got fed up with his hole or pole. Due to some itsy bitsy stuff you make blazing debate out of it. Its natural to have misunderstanding but wouldn't it be nice if you sit down and talk about it?(grow up man!) it would help to ease things out if you bear in mind that 'i love him' and savour the very first day that you met and feel 'he is going to be mine' or 'he is my everything' so that atleast you know not to take your relationship lightly. Talk about watever you feel...dun keep it in your heart and brood. if you can't commit, dun get into any relationship as you are going to cause a poor soul out there to be miserable!I have friends facing these problems and some friends of mine do have a very sweet and lasting relationship. To sum it all....get to know your partner, dont change him cause if you do then it means you dont like him for wat he is now, compromise and let him know you for who you are. People tend to overproject themself or even put on an act to impress someone, but in the end, ask yourself - are you happy by doing that? and will you able to keep up with that act of yours for years to come?